Most people experience short term irritability, frustration and annoyance, when their values, rules or standards are threatened or broken.
However, an anger disorder usually develops from failing to address underlying anger problems. Over time the angry feelings can develop into feelings of resentment, bitterness, hatred and rage. This can then have a damaging effect on physical health, relationships and work.
Common factors in anger include:
• Black and white thinking
• Increased heart rate, rapid breathing, muscle tension, stomach problems and headaches.
• Seeing malicious intent in the motives of others
• Plotting revenge
• Feelings of distress, guilt, and shame following anger episodes.
• Physical and verbal aggression.
• Passive aggression
Anger is not primarily about aggression. It usually starts with a distressed reaction to a sense of having been "wronged" in some way.
Negative Experience - Distressed Feeling - Sense of being Wronged - Anger - Counter-attack.
CBT for Anger Management
CBT offers a range of cognitive and behavioural techniques to effectively manage anger. It involves identifying, testing and altering the beliefs, rules and assumptions that maintain the anger, as well as changing some of the learnt behavioural responses to anger provoking situations and triggers.
Rachael Beeton, New Zealand Earthquake